This step by step guide won’t be some ordinary birds and the bees talk. On the contrary, it will spark your imagination, give you some pointers. It will also show how the perceptions of ourselves and our sexual desires influence our intimacy. It will also provide some juicy tips on how to please a man in bed step by step and more importantly, how to draw the best for yourself.

You see, great sex is all about mutual satisfaction. That’s why you should never ignore your feelings and desires. A lot of women disregard their own desires. They put their own pleasure second and after a while, it’s inevitable to have some issues in bed.

Remember that your partner, providing that he is the right guy for you, wants you to enjoy yourself as much as he does and even more. The best way to learn is through steps, so let’s start:

1. Stop overthinking things and radiate confidence

It’s not a secret that confidence is extremely sexy. It gives this vibe that you are comfortable with who you are and you know what you want. Of course, we all have our little insecurities. But you should never bring them to the bedroom with you.

The bedroom (or any place you decided to have sex at) is not the place where you should have any doubts about how you look or how you perform sexually. If a man is about to have sex with you, it’s because he finds you extremely attractive, and he has a boner the size of Alaska to prove it. So away with the doubts and in with the sex games.

The thing that holds us back from having and granting our partner an amazing sexual experience is actually in our heads. That’s why we should make sure we accept ourselves and our bodies just the way they are.

Also, we should keep in mind that things we consider imperfect might be perfect to our partner or he might not even notice them. All in all, he surely has his own insecurities about his imperfections and he is dealing with them in his own way. In any case, a little praise from you will most certainly help.

Once we accept our bodies for the perfect imperfections they are, it will reflect on us and our partner will pick up on sexy vibes we are sending. Also, you will have no problem leaving the lights on during sex, being on top, walking naked around the apartment…

2. It all begins in your minds

Once you are comfortable in your own body, it’s time for phase two – sparkling your partner’s imagination. Before activities between the sheets start, the real action is taking place in our minds. By lighting the fire in our partner’s imagination and probably in the area of his crotch, we will simultaneously become horny ourselves.
There are a few ways in which we can do that:

# Sexting

Sexting is one of the first and most effective ideas that come to mind. There are many directions in which sexting can go. It can vary from subtle vanilla dirty talk to something hardcore. It depends on your preferences, so let that be your guideline. In any case, sexts are bound to blow his mind and make him eager to see you and rip your clothes off of you. One of the great perks of sexting is that you have a lot of time to think about what you are going to say.

# Flirting mixed with sexual implications

There are so many ways in which you can flirt to make your partner crave you more. Words are powerful tools, so whispering something dirty to his ear, asking dirty questions, saying something in front of other people that only he will understand in a sexual manner (some code name for something sexual only two of you know) and also using body language can work wonders when flirting is involved.

# Sending sexy photos

And no, don’t send nudes. That’s never a good idea because nudes can end up all over the Internet, so that even those who they weren’t intended to, end up seeing them. No matter how much you trust your partner, one never knows what the future may bring.

So, when sending sexy photos or sexy snapchats, do it in a subtle way. For instance, you can send your cleavage, your boobs safely tucked in a lace bra, take a mirror selfie in sexy pants, something on that terms. The idea is to ignite his imagination not to reveal it all. After all, he is the one who needs to help and undress you.

3. Foreplay is everything

Foreplay combined with the previous step is something that will make your man crazy. It’s like an introduction to the actual intercourse which can be just as enjoyable. The entire concept of foreplay is to bottle up anticipation and make the actual sexual act so much more exciting.

You wanted to know how to please a man in bed step by step, and foreplay is the key that unlocks the doors to pleasure.

# Massage

To start it off slow, a good, full, body massage is something your partner will enjoy. Take it slow, turn some love making music on, put some massage oil on your hands and let your fingers slide all over his body. He will definitely melt in your hands.

# Sexy lingerie

This depends on the man you are dating. Some enjoy sexy lingerie so much that they will be turned on just by looking at it or touching it. They will probably ask you to leave it on during foreplay and during sex (if it’s possible).

On the other hand, there are men that don’t care much about lingerie and they will simply rip your clothes off in the heat of the moment caring more about what you have underneath all those clothes.
Sexy lingerie can also be helpful to you. It can make you feel sexy and confident and that’s definitely something your partner will pick up on and appreciate.

# Roleplay

Is something that can be beneficial for couples in long-term relationships that are stuck in a rut and want to find ways to spice up their sex life, but also for new couples who are into roleplays.

Taking on a new identity in the bedroom is something that adds to the freshness and fun of your intimate life. Some roles that couples usually like to act out are: professor&student, repairman&homeowner, strangers in a bar, porn stars, cheerleader&football player, domina&submissive and the list goes on. The important thing is to choose something you are both comfortable with.

# Kissing

There’s nothing quite like kissing when engaging in foreplay. Starting with the lips is a choice where you can’t go wrong. Making out increases sexual desire. Redirect your kisses to his neck and stay there for a while. Then slowly nibble his ear, going back to the neck and finding your way down. Kiss every inch of his body. The anticipation of a blow job will be something that will make his manhood hard as wood.

You can also change the intensity of your kisses. Depending on the mood, you can go from slow to aggressive, maybe even include subtle lip bites. The softness of your lips on his body will give him goosebumps all over. Kissing is often taken for granted although it shouldn’t be as it can do wonders.

# Going down on him

There is nothing that screams amazing foreplay (as far as most men are concerned) as oral sex. A blow job is something men enjoy as much as sex—or even more. The top of the penis is the most sensitive part—that’s why it needs special attention.

One of the things that will make his experience even greater is if you keep gently touching his testicles. You can suck and kiss them too. It will give him greater pleasure than he could ever have dreamed of.

# 69

The sex position, “69” is something that will undoubtedly provoke mutual pleasure. “69” involves 2 people performing oral sex on one another. Hearing each other moan and clench from pleasure will make you both aroused beyond the limits.


Mutual masturbation

This is also a good foreplay tactic that will guarantee the satisfaction of both parties. You will both be able to see each other’s faces in ecstasy and hear the moaning sounds that will shift intonation.
When senses of sight and hearing are combined with the sensation of pleasure that you provoke in one another by using hand movements the feeling for both of you will be so remarkable that there are not enough words to explain it.
Remember—he wants you to enjoy yourself as much as he does. His ability to satisfy you in bed is a major turn on as well as the proof of his good performance that he has been looking for.

Initiate sex

Men like women who are in touch with their sexuality. So, he will be more than happy if you start the movements that gradually lead to sex. You initiating sex will make him feel wanted. Be direct but take it slow. For instance, you can put your hand on his leg and work your way up to his tool, ask him to join you, take his hand and guide it to your butt or boobs. He will take it from there—or simply take him to the bedroom and start kissing him. There are a lot of options to use your imagination and you will most definitely shake his.

4. Game time

After you passed some or all of the previously mentioned steps above, you are now at the step that you were going for all along: the actual act of having sex. Usually, this step comes spontaneously without a need to overanalyze or overthink it.

But sometimes, after shifting your positions from top to bottom, you would like to add a little flavor. That’s where all different kinds of sex positions take place.

So, let’s see what are some of the most interesting ones:

# On top

As I already said, pleasing you is something most stimulating for your man. With you on top, he will have the front seat view in witnessing your pleasure first hand. He will be able to take in your entire body. But he will probably do much more than admire your body. He might grab your waist or touch your boobs while you are on top of him.
This position is the best answer to a question on how to please your man step by step, this being one of the crucial steps. This position is also great for you because it gives you control, you dictate the pace and you can see just how you are making him beg for more of you.

# Intensified missionary position

The missionary position is basic and most couples start off with this position. It gives a man the dominant position. But it also enables prolonged eye contact and a lot of kissing and in doing so, builds a better connection. The missionary position is not one that should be overlooked.

But in case you want to get more from it, rap your legs around his waist and lock them on his back. You will be drawing him towards you, making the penetration deeper. Also, placing your legs on his shoulders, making a “V” shape, will have the same effect.

While he is on top of you, you can run your fingers through his hair, grab his arms or caress them or grab his back, making an imprint of your fingers on it all out of pleasure. Those subtle moves will let him know that you are enjoying yourself and that if he keeps it going, you will come really hard really soon and that will be all he needs to proceed.

The missionary position is more pleasant for him because he gets to see your face making gestures of satisfaction. He will see your lips making moaning sounds and trembling out of pure pleasure. Knowing that it’s all due to him will make him extremely happy in bed and outside of it.

# The chair

This sex position demands female control, so don’t be afraid to take charge. The man, in this case, represents the chair in a manner of speaking. He is sitting with his legs outstretched in front of him, using his hands as support. The woman is on his male partner with her back to him, leaning close to his body. You sit on top of him, attaching your arms on his hips by leaning your head slightly back and slightly moving up and down.

# Spooning

It’s like cuddling and having sex all at once which increases your level of intimacy. Your partner has to lie down behind you and enter you gently. This position grants him full access to your body. His hands can go all over you and it is a perfect position to demonstrate his affection and adoration towards you.
While in this position, you can use your hands and gently touch his body, pulling him closer. You can also touch yourself to enhance your pleasure and his, too because as soon as he sees that you are masturbating in front of him, it will make him completely crazy but in a good way.

# Sex in front of the mirror

It’s time you start looking in the mirror in a whole different way. If you and your partner decide to have sex in front of the mirror, you will probably do it standing up, with your hands pressed on the wall on both sides of the mirror. You will bend slightly so he can penetrate you. You will hold your head up so he can see your facial expressions and the level of your enjoyment.
He will also have a mirror view of your front body parts while he has the perfect view of your bottom part. For him, the mirror is working wonders. On the other hand, you aren’t neglected here either because you can also see him, feel and see his hands on your love handles, and all in all, enjoy a great sex.

# Sex in the shower

First of all, the shower is a great place for foreplay. You can start by taking a sponge or simply use your hands to rub and wash his back. Start making your way down to his, and stay for a while in that area, kissing his freshly showered back. While lingering in that position, give him a handjob.
It will both surprise and amaze him. He will probably not expect it and maybe he never had anybody touch his manhood from that position—except himself obviously. The rest of the shower activities will evolve on their own. Let him make the next move. You will probably have sex standing up while not just parts of your body are wet but your entire body, too.

# Quickie

Quick is not something you plan. It’s something that happens. So when you feel the urge, just let yourself go and enjoy it. Your man will appreciate your sense of adventure. A quickie can happen anytime and anywhere. But the main cause for it to happen is your mutual burning desire that needs to be relieved.
So, don’t buy into that nonsense that sex has to be longlasting to be memorable. A good quickie from time to time will work wonders. Sometimes, you just have limited time or you have no desire for the foreplay, so you just jump right through that step but a quickie will be all you both need to be completely satisfied with the entire day.

# Reverse cowgirl

Is one more position that grants you full control. You dictate the speed, depth, angle, and intensity of the movement. It is the easiest way to hit your G-spot and make you come all over your partner.
The basis of this position is that you sit on your partner, turning your back toward him while he is laying flat on the bed. You can use his knees as a support and simply make movements that best soothe you both.
This position is rawer than it is intimate. It doesn’t provide you with eye contact or that feeling of closeness. But that doesn’t make it any less pleasurable. It gives him a great view of your behind and if he is an ass man, he will love this position—and you can always look back at him for a moment while you are riding him. That fast look will throw both of you over the top.

# The pretzel

Just the name of this position is intriguing and something probably new to the both of you. Luckily, it’s not as complicated as it sounds. This position demands that you lie down on your side. Leave your bottom leg stretched and flat. He will straddle your bottom leg while he is kneeling down. Your other leg will be curled around his waist.
This position enables deep penetration—like the one you would feel during doggy style—but this one enables you that precious eye contact.The other benefit is that it leaves his hands free and do whatever he wants with them.

# Doggy style

If your partner worships your booty, this will be one of his favorite sex positions. To achieve this position you have to get on all fours. He kneels, penetrating you from behind with his body leaning on yours.
This position grants him great satisfaction. He can admire the view from behind. He can grab your waist or pull your hair if things get a bit rougher. He also has to work with you on finding a mutual rhythm that will satisfy you both.

# The flatiron

Lay on your stomach with your legs flat and your hips slightly raised. He will straddle both of your legs and penetrate you kneeling down. This position gives him a tighter feeling that he and you find completely pleasing.
The flatiron also provides you with the feeling of closeness and intimacy you lose during some other ‘rear end’ sex positions.

5. Make sure you compliment his performance

Men love to be complimented on their performances. They want you to have a great time with them; they want to please you sexually. A man wants to thrive at sex more than any other part of life. Even though your actions during sex nonverbally said that you loved his moves and enjoyed yourself, it’s not a bad idea to say it aloud.
So after sex, while you are laying in bed cuddling, you might say something in terms of, “OMG that was great.” or “What was that? Woow.”. Simply speak your mind and how you feel in that moment, but don’t overdo it. Just small words of encouragement are enough.

The compliments are not there just to boost his ego. They are also there so that he knows that even if you haven’t reached orgasm, you had a good time. Usually, women need more time than men to climax and that’s something natural. So, don’t make a big deal out of it. One of the next times you will get there, so don’t lower his self-esteem by saying you weren’t satisfied.

6. Be naughty and adventurous

The best way, and probably the only way, you can fail in your attempt to satisfy a man is if you do nothing. If you just lie flat on your back expecting him to do everything, that’s not something that will make him happy and contented.

But if you are ready to put in even the slightest effort, your man will surely appreciate it. He wants to know that you are actually enjoying yourself and not thinking about what you are going to have for lunch tomorrow.

All he wants is to feel wanted. The best way to achieve that is by being a bit naughty and adventurous. And while he may like your sweetness and femininity outside the bedroom, inside the bedroom, he would welcome your primal urges arising.

So, initiate sex, grab his ass, play with his balls, bite him on his neck let your imagination run wild. Relax and enjoy yourself—don’t overthink the whole situation. You will only hold back the both of you.

Although your question was how to please a man in bed step by step, the bed shouldn’t be the only place where pleasures are made. Be adventurous. Look for new places to have sex in or indulge him in some of his fantasies.

So what if you have an apartment, that doesn’t mean that sex in the back seat of the car won’t be just the thing you needed. You can also try something with a risk of being caught—like sex on the balcony with the danger that some of your neighbors might see you or a quickie in a changing room the next time you go clothes shopping.

Be bold. Don’t let anything scare you and make the best of every moment you spend in bed—and outside of it.

I hope this simple “How to please a man in bed step by step guide” will come in handy. There are a lot of varieties to given examples and you will get there on your own, exploring them with your partner.

The key to having great sex is having an emotional bond, too. If you get along with your partner in other aspects of your life together, your sex life will prosper from it. Because if you have both emotional and physical bonds, there is no stopping you. The more you engage in sexual activities, the better the sex.

Like all the good things in life sex also gets better with practice. You will get to know your partner, his likes and dislikes, his fantasies and sexual desires and he will know yours. When you are both in it for the mutual pleasure there is no stopping you.

I just want to stress once more the importance of confidence in all of this. If you let your insecurities aside and live in the moment, you’ve already done half of the work. Don’t let anything hold you back. By allowing yourself to feel comfortable in your own skin, you will automatically enjoy sex more than you ever thought possible.

That’s just the trigger your partner needs to be satisfied in bed, too. It’s all simple when you look at it. He needs to know that you are pleased so he could be pleased, too.

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